I am the Lesbian Kevin Bacon

Slightly Surprised how spot on, and its quick to take too!

2008-10-16T03:58:42Z

Your result for Are You a Jackie or a Marilyn? Or Someone Else? Mad Men-era Female Icon Quiz...

You Are an Ingrid!

You are an Ingrid -- "I am unique"

Ingrids have sensitive feelings and are warm and perceptive.

How to Get Along with Me

* Give me plenty of compliments. They mean a lot to me.

* Be a supportive friend or partner. Help me to learn to love and value myself.

* Respect me for my special gifts of intuition and vision.

* Though I don't always want to be cheered up when I'm feeling melancholy, I sometimes like to have someone lighten me up a little.

* Don't tell me I'm too sensitive or that I'm overreacting!

What I Like About Being an Ingrid

* my ability to find meaning in life and to experience feeling at a deep level

* my ability to establish warm connections with people

* admiring what is noble, truthful, and beautiful in life

* my creativity, intuition, and sense of humor

* being unique and being seen as unique by others

* having aesthetic sensibilities

* being able to easily pick up the feelings of people around me

What's Hard About Being an Ingrid

* experiencing dark moods of emptiness and despair

* feelings of self-hatred and shame; believing I don't deserve to be loved

* feeling guilty when I disappoint people

* feeling hurt or attacked when someone misundertands me

* expecting too much from myself and life

* fearing being abandoned

* obsessing over resentments

* longing for what I don't have

Ingrids as Children Often

* have active imaginations: play creatively alone or organize playmates in original games

* are very sensitive

* feel that they don't fit in

* believe they are missing something that other people have

* attach themselves to idealized teachers, heroes, artists, etc.

* become antiauthoritarian or rebellious when criticized or not understood

* feel lonely or abandoned (perhaps as a result of a death or their parents' divorce)

Ingrids as Parents

* help their children become who they really are

* support their children's creativity and originality

* are good at helping their children get in touch with their feelings

* are sometimes overly critical or overly protective

* are usually very good with children if not too self-absorbed

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The whole story!!!

2008-10-06T02:56:44Z

So as I mentioned last week Patricia Yarrow pleaded guilty for two counts federal felonies of identity theft, two counts of credit card misdemeanor, and one count 2nd degree theft. She plead GUILTY!!
It was the sweetest thing to my ears to hear it utter from her throat. This has been a year in the making. I pressed charges back in August 2007, she was arrested and arraigned in September. If she had been smart she would have taken the first plea, the one that was smaller. But thinking if she just ignored it, it'd go away she didn't go to her meetings with her attorney, she didn't give the court the correct address and she didn't show up for court dates.
This meant that I had to go to testify in front of the grand jury. I had to relive the entire events in front of a roomful of strangers. I cried on the stand. It made me shake. But I made sure my voice was heard. I never was going to let her get away with this. All I could think was how she would say she didn't believe in karma. That was reason enough to push through. It didn't take the grand jury more than 15 minutes to come back with 9 charges! When I went in there were only 3 against her.
Then there was the re-arraignment that she didn't show up for. They did a continuance, she didn't show up again. They put out a bench warrant for her. Took a month or two but they got her. She was arrested once more. She was released once more. But she got it through her head she better show up.
So one year to the date, we went back to court, Heidi and I and I watched her lawyer get through it again. He gave her the outline of the plea bargain and we had to come back for the disposition as there was a clerical error on the paperwork she needed to sign to claim Guilty. So I came back, after my birthday and heard her say it. Guilty.

To know that I wasn't going crazy all those times I didn't know where my statements were or I was missing money. To know I wasn't exceeding my own limits and overdrawing my accounts. But it hurts to know all the lies she said and did. To have cried on her shoulder when my cards were declined. When I thought I was going crazy. To have told her my secrets and believed her when she said she was my best friend. I thought she was a sister but a sister doesn't steal your identity. They do not steal your confirmation cross that your mother gave you. They don't leave you with no answer for their behavior.

I am so blessed to have learned what real friends are from this experience. To have a love in my life that is based on open honesty. Something she will never have. I am proud of my job, doing something where I passed background checks because I am an upstanding citizen. I mean with identity theft and credit card fraud on your records you can't even get a job as a cashier at Wal-mart! I am glad to know my vote counts. I am not a convicted felon.

So the tears, the anger, the nightmare, the move, the stress, was all worth it. Now I just have to wait for the sentencing. That will take place in December. Also, if you know of any good civil lawyers in DC, give me their number. I'm ready to get my money back :)

Will fill in all the details later....

2008-09-30T23:38:45Z

But!! Patricia Yarrow plead guilty today. GUILTY!!! She said it with her own mouth. Her own voice, her own words, GUILTY!!!!

To make that gay chick feel better

2008-06-05T01:49:52Z

So because of the rain, my kitchen has flooded. This is because the drain in back is clogged because dc sewers suck. Because the sewer is backed up our bathroom is also covered in poopy water because guess who had to go and didn't think, hey, rain makes it so nothing with water should work properly when it rains... ME!

So yeah, not as bad but I feel your anguish. Poopy water sisters.

Whoot WHOOT!

2008-05-28T01:42:14Z

Oh, I forgot to mention, I also got my Stimulus check today! A full $600!!! Suhhhh weeeeet!! This will be nice. I think I am also going to talk to my friends that live in Mass and might go up and visit the week of the 4th of July. I get the whole week off!!! Well, sort of, there's a half day on Monday but the rest of the week is off. It'd be great fun. Cape Cod at the 4th is soooo much fun. I would love to do that again. Plus I'd maybe get a chance to see my Kris and Emily! Kris?? :) :)

So pleasant and drinking a great wine while my fabulous wife spoils me by baking me cookies and dinner, I am so happy right now :)

Wow I am so happy

2008-05-28T00:56:28Z

SO I had my first day of work today. It was amazing!! I really like the kids in my class. They are all little hellions I can tell but they are really trying to lull me into a false sense of security. Mind you, when these kids act out they don't fight fair, we are talking head butting, biting, kicking, scratching, they are not nice kids. But they were awesome today.
I spent my morning reading their case files and then working with them all afternoon. Since the people who work there already showed me respect, they knew they had to respect me too. They followed all the rules I told them, I was great!
The people I am working with are also so much fun. When I got there one of the fellas opened the front door for me he said, "We've been waiting for you!" Everyone was so nice. During the morning meeting we were all laughing and getting along. Some people were sad to here I wasn't in their room. It was awesome to feel wanted. Turns out a girl that I spoke to at the group interview also got hired so that was very cool to see her.
I can't wait to learn everyone's names and classes. As it goes, I feel like this is the right fit finally.

Yay :)

How did you spend your Memorial day?

2008-05-26T22:55:28Z

Oh I don't know, how about sleeping in late, finishing my book in bed, checking on the wifey playing her video games and continuing to read ten more chapters in my next book and then took a nap.

I think it was a pretty damn successful day!

Oh, and yesterday we signed the lease for our new house. We also went to Ikea and I made peace with my favorite store since the whole fraudulent credit card deal. Heidi was a total doll, let me get meatballs and then decorate our new house with my mind. It was great.

We also had some friends over on Saturday to play Wii and then we went out to go dancing. It was a lovely weekend. We had also planned on going bowling but it just didn't play out this weekend. I'm still quite satisfied. OH! And I got rid of a garbage bag worth of clothes and shoes. I'm quite happy about that. Time to pare down for the move even though we are moving to a bigger space, we are going to look like one of those tv houses!!

Now to read through all my new work manuals one last time before my first day tomorrow!!!
:)

Sometimes it's worth the wait

2008-05-22T16:20:44Z

Sometime life is worth the wait it makes you go through. I have been through some hard times lately, not the most horrible times, others have been through worst but they definitely weighed on my soul in a way I've never had to do before.
Identity theft, nervous breakdown, leaving my job (while my choice I was forced out by harrassment), another nervous breakdown, barely being able to pay bills, getting a job, getting it pulled from me, still dealing with the identity theft a year later, finding a new house, having it be rented out before we can even apply. But everything works out for a reason.

-The identity theft has shown me who people really are. My real friends have stepped up, they have supported me. It has gotten the toxic venomous people out. I have nothing to do with them now and that's fine.
-Both nervous breakdowns have made me more self aware. I am able to understand myself better from them and proven that I am stronger than I even think I am sometime.
-Leaving my job, while difficult financially had been the best thing for my career. I hated accounting but I was good at it. This forced me to go after my dream jobs. It made me look at my priorities and I went after it.
-Heidi has been my stone and made sure that the bills were always taken care of. She's done her best to not let me stress about them and she's amazing.
-I think the job that got pulled due to the horrible things that lady said was part of the process. Because I was turned down for it it opened up the doors for the job that I will be starting next week. It's a job with growth in the field I want to be professional in.
-One of the reasons I'm still dealing with the identity theft is because she didn't take the plea bargain. This worked out in my favor. I wish I could tell you all the fun details but the fact is I would hate to spoil it all for her :)
-While we lost out on the 2 bedroom house for $900 we found a three bedroom for $1,000. We have gotten it! We will be signing lease tomorrow. While it will be taking us out of the city it will be bringing us closer to a University and my new job. This is a great opportunity. Oh and I get a garden!!

So I have struggled through the hard times and they are starting to turn around. On another page, I have been asked to perform at two Prides. Not just the DC Capital Pride but Atlanta Pride. I'm working on the logistics right now but hopefully it will happen. I'm very excited.

Life is worth the wait sometimes.

no words

2008-04-28T20:49:56Z

Can I just say holy crap I'm watching Oprah. Not only and I watching Oprah but I'm going to the links that she talks about because they seeem interesting. AAAAAGGGGHHHHH!!! I blame it on the wine, it's the wine's fault, but damn is she intersting... I didn't say that!! I didn't! AAAGGGGHHHH!!!!

SO HAPPY :)

2008-04-25T23:36:19Z

So Marie, how was the interview you ask? Oh, it went ok, I think, I respond. But by the title of this entry you know I'm a dirty liar! It went fantastically!! She loved me! She said if it were up to her, she'd hire me on te spot but alas I have to interview with the direct supervisor.

God that sucks you ask, when will you know. Oh I don't know maybe when they called earlier today to schedule it for this Sunday! I am meeting them on Sunday for about an hour. If they like me, I might start as early as next week. I am sooo psyched!!

I'm still a little anxious to say exactly what the job is, being superstitious about that but it is exactly the stepping stone I need to start my professional career. It would be perfect, I'd be making just a little less than Heidi so I won't feel like such a leech anymore. (One of the reasons I have not posted recently) I've been really really dry financially this past month or so. So this would be great to get our lives back on track to what I see our futures holding for us. YAY!

Thank you for the good thoughts and for the kind words. It's so refreshing to be looking forward for stuff!

Fluffy feelings

2008-04-25T16:03:19Z

I'm so excited. I finally stopped worrying about failing and applied for one of my dream jobs. I have an interview!! Today!! I am so nervous, I have butterflies in my stomach. It's exactly what I need to be doing right now to be taking the steps towards what I want my professional job to be. IT would be amazing! I would be making as much if not MORE than what I made as an accountant!

I am soooooo nervous!!! I am soo giddy. I'm trying to stay calm, collected and get all my stuff together. I'm sort of paralyzed with anxiousness. This is why I always have trouble going after what I want because I'm scared of failing. What if they don't like me, if they don't think I'm qualified enough, if I say something wrong. God! I'm so excited!!!

I'll let you know how it goes once I get back!! So excited!!!

Purging never felt so good

2008-04-07T20:11:00Z

I love my wife and I love what she did for me last night. While I was at am amazing show, opening for Vermillion Lies, she went through and purged the house of everything that was left over from when Tricia lived with us. EVERYTHING! We still had a box of stuff that she never came back to pick up, we had the dishes and other crap she bought from Ikea, we kept going back and forth on if we needed it for evidence, should we return it to Ikea since technically it;s stolen property, should we sell it?

Well the prosecutor told us we could sell it, we just never got around to it so we have just been holding it and its negative energy has been slowly eating away at the beauty of our home so Heidi just got rid of EVERYTHING. She put it all outside on the corner. Since today was trash day we figured it would be taken care of some how. As it turns out, some fine people came by and collected all of it. So it is alllllll gone. We now have even more space for all our wedding gifts, to just move freely in our own home.

It was such a wonderful surprise since I had had a really rough night with someone at Palace. She did what I have just not been able to. I think watching Clean House all day inspired her. I am so lucky to have such an amazing wife and partner to share my life with.

I never post anymore

2008-04-04T04:36:22Z

But that doesn't mean I don't come on here daily to catch up on you all. I feel like I've been a shady friend. I'm sorry. It's all still reverberations from last summers chaos. It still gets me worked up, no surprise, it's still being dealt with. I have come to a better place with it though and like I have always said, What goes around comes around. It has been teaching me patience.

So the wedding! IT was amazing! Such a good time, and the hotel Heidi got for us, to die for. It was the most romantic night of my life. Our honeymoon was also incredible. We stayed at noladarling's guest house which was wonderful and we hung out with a bunch of my old friends. We ate crawfish and drank daquiris and got tattoos! Then when we got back to town we got kittens! Two little rascals from my friend Meni. They are named Possum and Ronald Weasley. So now there is Monkey, Possum, Ronnie, Heidi and I.

I've been performing up a storm! Been making new contacts and such. I was also elected bookings manager for the Gurly show so I have been kept very busy with that to say the least. We are in the midst of putting together the most insane show for june. It's at a local swingers club that is no holds bar! I already have my number planned and it's going to be cute, sexy and nude!
Along with performing a ton I have been keeping up with my website as it was my only job for awhile. I am not making hair flowers which I sell fairly regularly thought I need to get a website online just for those. They are so beautiful and delicate. I love my little cherry blossom ones. It's the perfect season for them.

Job wise, life is good and busy. I have been so happy since I quit that damn day job. Working with my friend has been great, there's a chance I may go to some out of state shows with her. The products are so amazing and everyone loves them. I also have been doing a sound board at a local bar for the performances and have gotten really good. People ask me if I was trained but I guess it's just how I was wired, to figure things out. I actually had a job interview today too! It was for a position working in a theatre. Actually two positions. They are interested in me for both and I kind of have the choice. So it's between a fulltime gig that would have medical and all that but would be fulltime plus some evenings since its a theatre. The other would be only part time though mostly evenings but I would have more flexibilty so I could continue to work with my friend plus I'd get to dress in formals for the opening nights! I think it was a really good omen that one of the interviewers wrote her thesis on burlesque!

So yes, its been a busy life. Heidi is still wonderful as always. She is really my rock. I have some other great news but I am going to keep it to myself for awhile. I'm actually not allowed to talk about it. But trust me, it's good.

Love to all of you, and if a lot of this seems like a rehash, it might just be. Life has just been nice in that there's no drama in it.

It's time to draw peeps!

2008-03-16T17:21:13Z

And by draw peeps, I don't mean draw those little marshmallow candies. I mean getting your booty down to your favority oddities bar, Palace of Wonders for Dr. Sketchy's tonight!

A free event in which you get to drink, draw and win prizes. It's not a bad way to put the impending work week out of your mind for just a little bit longer. Tonight we are inducting our first male model, Paco Fish. Will he be on stilts? Will he take it all off? Will he juggle art supplies? Who knows, only if you come out will you find out, so let's see you there for some good times, good drinks and good friends.

Oh! When the Saints, go marching in!

2008-02-26T01:14:12Z

So Heidi gave me a hint that I was able to guess where we were going on our honeymoon... Well she's taking me to New Orleans!!
We are going to go to all my old hang outs, eat tons of AMAZING food, see old friends and just enjoy the warm weather.

I am so excited, I can't even explain! She is so wonderful and knows me so well, to know that this would make me happy. We are going to have so much fun!!!!

Come on out and support

2008-02-12T15:34:14Z

I will be your host and it will be a raucous good time, I'd sure love for you to buy me a drink ;)

Get Artsy this Sunday for FREE!

2008-01-18T14:37:30Z

With games and PRIZES and one of this town's most amazing Side show performers!

Forgot to mention

2007-12-27T17:53:52Z

Did I tell you that for a christmas present Heidi and I got a honeymoon trip to Vegas? Oh yeah, we got a trip to Vegas for christmas. Now we have to pay the taxes on it but it's legit, for real and we are going to set it up for our honeymoon!! I'll be able to get my white chapel wedding!! :) I am so excited. We already have a list of things we want to do, hit up Miss Exotic World Hall of Fame, probably the Playboy club, Circus Circus, the white chapel, hell, we might see about getting some wedding tats, you know how we roll. ;)

I am so excited.

I'll be your lovely host ;)

2007-12-14T19:18:39Z

If you like to draw, if you like to drink or you like burlesque then I have a Sunday night plan for you! And its FREE! Coco Monroe, a local legend will be performing and posing for your delight. We will have contests, fun times, and you should not miss out.

Goodbye my friend

2007-12-02T02:20:23Z

My baby kitty, my best friend, my confidant for the last 20 years had to be put to sleep today. It seems that she had a lesion or a tumor on her right frontal lobe. It was the most difficult decision I have ever had to make in my life and the most painful.

I was there with her at the moment. I stroked her as her life left her body and I mourned like I have never known. I am now just in the point of numbness as I have been crying all day. Please forgive me if I am a little off.

I'm in the New York Post!

2007-11-28T03:40:01Z

The picture that Scott Brooks did of me is listed in the New York Post! If you go to the website my picture is the one that is shown!!

It is so cool!!

http://www.nypost.com/seven/11272007/entertainment/brushes__booze_make_arty_party_941779.htm?CMP=EMC-email_edition&DATE=11272007

what what

2007-11-12T20:04:59Z

Post a comment to this entry and I will...

1. Tell you why I friended you.
2. Associate you with something - fandom, a song, a colour, a photo, etc.
3. Tell you something I like about you.
4. Tell you a memory I have of you.
5. Ask something I've always wanted to know about you.
6. Tell you my favorite user pic of yours.
7. In return, you must post this in your LJ.

This Friday!

2007-11-08T15:47:03Z

my drag mama!

2007-11-06T23:39:24Z

Hello all

2007-10-15T02:28:26Z

A little update for you all on my happenings. I am about to have more crazy crazy week ahead of me. I'm most excited about Thursday though. Oh Thursday, not only are you fabulous already for being The Office day but I have to go talk to some people. That's all I'm going to say. but it's going to be an EXCITING meeting. I don't know how I'm going to sleep till then!

I do have a ton going on before then. Mainly, I have performances. Well before and after, plus performances I promised friends I would go to to support them. It's a crazy week. I basucally have tomorrow night to get the house ready for my cousin who is coming on Friday, yay! And then I'm just going to pack all my costumes leading up to all the shows so they are just ready in advance.

The wedding plans are going GREAT! We have invitations in hand, I can think of at least 8 people that are no longer coming because they are truly disgusting human beings. So we are working on that but we've started to give them out to a few people. I have my wedding dress! Not only picked out but in hand! It is fabulous and perfectly me and just delicate and wonderful. Best part, it's long enough that I'll be able to get a FABULOUS pair of heels! I'm very excited about that. I really didn't want to wear flats. We are going to work on the cake this week I think but besides that we are pretty much set! It is a great place to be. It is amazing how quickly everything just started to work out so nicely after Tricia left. It was like a horrible hatefilled bubble was lifted from the apartment and everything just started to work out.

Monley and Snowball are doing wonderfully. We took them to the vet and we were told Snowball was in very good health for her age and Monkey is just a fabulous little kitten. They get along great and love us very much. Most nights its all 4 of us in bed. It's so cute.

So yes, let me know if you ar up for some shows this week, there's a ton going on but so it goes.